Because We Said So

Zama Marubelela; Landiwe Gama
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Because We Said So

Because We Said So is a podcast by Zama Marubelela and Landzy Gama, two 20-something South African women figuring life out in real time. From navigating friendships, love, careers, and the chaos of growing up—no topic is off-limits. It’s girlhood, unfiltered. Come for the laughs, stay for the realness.

Episodes

  1. 1 DAY AGO

    Just Sharing or Oversharing? The Cost of Vulnerability Online.

    In this week’s episode of Because We Said So, we kick things off with all the looks, slays and serves from Durban July 2025 — the girls (and the gents) did not come to play! We also catch up on the latest Love Island drama (because duh, what’s a week without it?) and then dive into the story that’s taken over South African social media, the Grace Mandlana discourse.From there, we unpack a deeper conversation — the cost of vulnerability online.We reflect on our own experiences of opening up on the internet, how it’s sometimes healing, sometimes heavy, and what it really means to be soft in such a public space. We also tie it all back to the week’s pop culture rewind.As always, we’re keeping it honest, a little chaotic, and deeply reflective.Have you ever felt like you overshared online? Or do you think vulnerability is empowering?

    1h 4m

  2. 9 JUL

    Real Friends.. How Many Of Us?

    This week on Because We Said So, we’re getting real about friendship in your 20s — what it means to be a good friend, how to show up for the people you love, and how friendships change as we grow. Inspired by the viral Be Simone podcast moment where her best friend called her out, we unpack the emotional weight of feeling unseen, how to set boundaries, and what accountability in friendship actually looks like. We also catch you up on this week’s pop culture moments including Rita Ora proposing to her husband, Nelly and Ashanti’s new reality TV show, and of course, our weekly Love Island debrief. It’s a real girl chat about the friendships that shape us, the ones we outgrow, and what it actually means to be there for your people.

    1h 4m

  3. 2 JUL

    Hookup Culture & Owning Your Sexuality

    This week on Because We Said So, we’re diving headfirst into the complexities of hookup culture and what it means to explore your sexuality as a woman in your 20s. Inspired by a creators viral video questioning a woman’s worth in relation to hookup culture, we unpack the double standards, the freedom, the shame, and everything in between. Of course, it wouldn’t be a full episode without our usual debrief on Love Island drama (you already know we have thoughts), a quick chat on the newly announced Hey Neighbour Festival lineup, and a sprinkle of pop culture commentary—including what we’re expecting (and side-eyeing) from Cardi B’s upcoming album. It’s honest, unfiltered, and girlhood in its realest form.

    1h 4m

  4. 25 JUN

    The End of the "Cool Girl" Era

    This week on Because We Said So, we’re getting into the whole “cool girl” thing — what it actually means, why we’ve all tried to be her at some point, and how to still show up as yourself while protecting your boundaries. We also chat about people pleasing and how it shows up in both personal and professional relationships (and not in a cute way).And of course, we had to get into the Love Island USA drama and give our thoughts on the Real Housewives of Durban season finale. It’s a jam-packed episode — honest convos, hot takes, and lots of laughs.

    1h 12m

  5. 18 JUN

    Sometimes It *IS* The Soul That Needs The Surgery

    In this episode of Because We Said So, we kick things off with our thoughts on the Kelvin Momo Symphonic concert, the unexpected pairing of Teyana Taylor and Aaron Pierre, the latest Love Island drama, and why Amerie’s Tiny Desk performance has everyone talking. We then dive into a deeper conversation around body dysmorphia, cosmetic surgery, and the harmful impact of society’s obsession with one ideal body type. The girls open up about their body images woe’s growing up and Zama opens up about her personal cosmetic surgery experience and we reflect on how these pressures affect young girls growing up. We also share advice on building body confidence and embracing self-acceptance in a world that constantly tells you to change. Come sit with us bwss-ties, we've got a lot to say!

    1h 5m

  6. 11 JUN

    Should We Have It All Figured Out In Our 20's?

    This week, we’re getting into that weird pressure in your 20s to have it all figured out — the job, the apartment, the relationship, the glow-up. We’re talking about the feeling of being left behind while everyone else seems ten steps ahead, and why it’s way more common than it looks online. Plus, we get into the burgundy nails debate that’s taken over South African TikTok, and the Nonku vs. Londie drama on Real Housewives of Durban — because obviously, we had thoughts. It’s giving honest chats, a little chaos, and your weekly reminder that timelines are fake.

    59 min

  7. 4 JUN

    Lessons About Dating in Our 20’s

    In this week’s episode of Because We Said So, we’re diving into the differences between dating in our late 20s versus our early 20s—what’s changed, what we’ve learned, and why we’d never go back. We also touch on Justin Bieber’s surprise performance at Kendrick Lamar’s concert, the report that Elf Cosmetics is purchasing Hailey Bieber’s Rhode brand, and the Love Is Blind contestants who recently announced their pregnancies. It’s a mix of real talk, pop culture, and a little nostalgia.

    1h 13m

  8. 28 MAY

    Absent Fathers, Present Wounds. | #BecauseWeSaidSoPod

    This week on Because We Said So, we’re getting real about absent fathers—how their absence can shape our views on love, trust, and independence. From hyper-independence to deep-rooted abandonment issues, we unpack the emotional weight so many women carry into adulthood and relationships.We also dive into the current conversations around men in the media, from the disturbing revelations in the Diddy trial to Justin Bieber’s very concerning post about Hailey pm the latest cover of Vogue, and what it all says about power, masculinity, and accountability. It’s been a heavy week, and we’re talking about it all—from the personal to the public.If you’ve ever wondered why you feel the need to always be strong, why trusting others feels like a risk, or why certain headlines hit too close to home—this one’s for you.

    1h 7m

  9. 21 MAY

    “Soft Girl Era” - Empowering or A Step Backward?

    In this episode of Because We Said So, we dive into the rise of the Soft Girl Era—but is it truly empowering or just another aesthetic built to box women in? We unpack the meaning behind this trending lifestyle and whether softness is a choice or a performance as well as ways we can look at the “soft girl aesthetic” that makes sense for us average girlies. We also chat about Beyoncé’s new tour and the social media buzz around the Humanz Instagram post that had the SA social media streets buzzing! Join us for another honest girl chat as we reflect on femininity, identity, and the pressures of performing “softness” in a not-so-soft world.

    53 min

  10. 14 MAY

    Can Real Friendships Survive In The Public Eye?

    Welcome to the very first episode of Because We Said So — your new favourite space for unfiltered girl chats, real talk, and everything in between with none other than Landzy Gama and Zama (ZeeXOnline) Marubelela. In this debut episode, we’re diving into what it’s like maintaining friendships while living in the spotlight. From handling online assumptions to protecting your peace and setting boundaries, we get honest about the highs and lows of navigating close relationships when people are watching. We truly hope you enjoy🤎

    47 min
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About

Because We Said So is a podcast by Zama Marubelela and Landzy Gama, two 20-something South African women figuring life out in real time. From navigating friendships, love, careers, and the chaos of growing up—no topic is off-limits. It’s girlhood, unfiltered. Come for the laughs, stay for the realness.

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  • Creator
    Zama Marubelela; Landiwe Gama
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    10
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Zama Marubelela; Landiwe Gama
  • Show Website
    Because We Said So

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